Hi, This the first question of me. And I'm afraid it's not about the lessons, but about the japanese culture. In octobre this year we (my japanese girlfriend and I) are planning to go to Japan. There I want to ask her to marry me. Is it costum like in the Netherlands and south european countries(true oldfashioned) to ask her hand to their parents or is their any other traditional whay to do this.
Furthermore I want to thank you for this great site! Iwas learning Japanese with books, but I prefere this site.
Could you do me a favor and not display this in the Q
It is normal to ask the GIRL first. Afterall what if she says no? I mean it would be pretty embarrassing if the parents said yes and she said no. And how exactly would you be able to ask the parents without her knowing. But then if she says yes she will introduce you to her parents and she can help you tell them the idea of marriage. You might want to watch THIS SHOW since we sort of have a parody of me asking Chie's father to let me marry her. If anything you will laugh!
OOPS! LOL! I didn't even see that part. I was SO focused on the answer to the question. But I think it is a great question and nothing to be embarrassed about. I think I will add to the Ask a Teacher policy though. Any and all answered questions will be publicly displayed on the main site. Why? Well because it actually it isn't cost effective to answer questions individually.
The question and answer should benefit every student. Some guys ask 12-15 questions in the first month. There is no way the 15 bucks allotted for the lessons could cover the cost of the teacher or time to answer that amount of questions. So unless Elwin realllllllllly thinks this shouldn't be shown then I would like to keep it. It is a really good cultural question.
Good for you! I was ready to propose to a girl a few years ago. I was working myself up and finally decided I was going to buy a ring. Realistically I was still probably 6 months away from actually doing it, but it felt really close. Anyways, she dumped me about a week later and shortly was with someone else. A little too soon if you ask me, so it was clearly for the best that we split. But hey, congratulations!
A dutch wedding Thx everyone! It's going to be a dutch wedding. The weddings here are quite the same as weddings in the US, a ceremony not a religious one, a dinner and a party. When I don't know yet, ofcourse still a lot of planning to do. I did't dare to ask her parents first, because they don't speak english or any other language besides japanese and mine japanese is not that good yet. So I was afraid of some sort of miscommunication. But they were really happy and they like me.
Rex! I'm not sure about how I would feel either if I saw my girlfriend's brother kiss her on the mouth!
Well, if I had gotten married I wouldn't be able to move to Japan next year, and I'd be studying Korean now instead of Japanese. It's really funny though, I actually met her in a junior college japanese 2 class.