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Question to Teacher: Should I ask my girlfriend to marry me? Or just ask her parents first?
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Question to Teacher: Should I ask my girlfriend to marry me? Or just ask her parents first?
Course 2 Lesson 11: Sayoko and Jeff (New Verbs)
| Elwinos | Post Date: 2005-08-31 22:33:38 |  save to notebook | saved questions | ||
 member since 2005 Aug 05 Questions: 2 Comments: 3 | Hi, This the first question of me. And I'm afraid it's not about the lessons, but about the japanese culture. In octobre this year we (my japanese girlfriend and I) are planning to go to Japan. There I want to ask her to marry me. Is it costum like in the Netherlands and south european countries(true oldfashioned) to ask her hand to their parents or is their any other traditional whay to do this. Furthermore I want to thank you for this great site! Iwas learning Japanese with books, but I prefere this site. Could you do me a favor and not display this in the Q | ||||
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| JFZ_George | Post Date: 2005-08-31 22:41:20 | ||
 member since 1997 Aug 25 Questions: 22 Comments: 2701 |
Hi Elwin, It is normal to ask the GIRL first. Afterall what if she says no? I mean it would be pretty embarrassing if the parents said yes and she said no. And how exactly would you be able to ask the parents without her knowing. But then if she says yes she will introduce you to her parents and she can help you tell them the idea of marriage. You might want to watch THIS SHOW since we sort of have a parody of me asking Chie's father to let me marry her. If anything you will laugh! Good luck with her! I hope she says yes! George @ YesJapan.com | ||
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| Fizzy | Post Date: 2005-09-04 02:45:38 | ||
 member since 2005 Aug 02 Questions: 1 Comments: 1 |
Oops 'Could you do me a favor and not display this in the Q&A Database. Thanks in advance.' Errmmm..... *Goes back in time and doesn't click on this question* (but good luck all the same..) | ||
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| JFZ_George | Post Date: 2005-09-04 03:03:38 | ||
member since 1997 Aug 25 Questions: 22 Comments: 2701 |
OOPS! LOL! I didn't even see that part. I was SO focused on the answer to the question. But I think it is a great question and nothing to be embarrassed about. I think I will add to the Ask a Teacher policy though. Any and all answered questions will be publicly displayed on the main site. Why? Well because it actually it isn't cost effective to answer questions individually. The question and answer should benefit every student. Some guys ask 12-15 questions in the first month. There is no way the 15 bucks allotted for the lessons could cover the cost of the teacher or time to answer that amount of questions. So unless Elwin realllllllllly thinks this shouldn't be shown then I would like to keep it. It is a really good cultural question. | ||
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| Ryan88 | Post Date: 2005-09-04 16:27:38 | ||
 member since 2004 Oct 31 Questions: 3 Comments: 14 |
maybe Maybe she looks at the site often, YOU RUINED THE SUPRISE. | ||
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| Elwinos | Post Date: 2005-09-04 17:29:38 | ||
member since 2005 Aug 05 Questions: 2 Comments: 3 |
ok It's ok George just leave it in the database. I just thought this got nothing to do with the lessons so just answere only to me. And no Ryan she doesn't look at this site, so it stays a secret, hopefully.... | ||
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| Luke101018 | Post Date: 2005-09-05 06:37:38 | |||
 member since 2004 Oct 01 Questions: 20 Comments: 169 |
lol What a bummer that'd be if she read this thread... lmao. | |||
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| Elwinos | Post Date: 2005-11-09 23:12:38 | ||
member since 2005 Aug 05 Questions: 2 Comments: 3 |
Oleeh For everyone who wants to know. She said YES! :-)) | ||
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| brianca | Post Date: 2005-11-09 23:41:38 | ||
 member since 2005 Aug 23 Questions: 10 Comments: 19 |
this space for rent Congrats! How did it go with her parents? | ||
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| seek | Post Date: 2005-11-10 01:05:38 | |||
 member since 2005 Jan 22 Questions: 14 Comments: 65 |
i was wondering about this! *toast* (raises pop can) | |||
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| dtm | Post Date: 2005-11-10 10:34:38 | ||
member since 2005 Sep 18 Questions: 2 Comments: 7 |
Good for you! I was ready to propose to a girl a few years ago. I was working myself up and finally decided I was going to buy a ring. Realistically I was still probably 6 months away from actually doing it, but it felt really close. Anyways, she dumped me about a week later and shortly was with someone else. A little too soon if you ask me, so it was clearly for the best that we split. But hey, congratulations! | ||
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| JapanFiles (Steve) | Post Date: 2005-11-10 14:50:38 | ||
 member since 2007 Jun 24 Questions: 0 Comments: 3 |
Let me tell you about the Steve wedding The lil lady, A couple of tall boys, a large pizza, and an Xbox 360. Now that is what true love is all about. What kind of woman could deny that? | ||
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| Elwinos | Post Date: 2005-11-10 16:36:38 | ||
member since 2005 Aug 05 Questions: 2 Comments: 3 |
A dutch wedding Thx everyone! It's going to be a dutch wedding. The weddings here are quite the same as weddings in the US, a ceremony not a religious one, a dinner and a party. When I don't know yet, ofcourse still a lot of planning to do. I did't dare to ask her parents first, because they don't speak english or any other language besides japanese and mine japanese is not that good yet. So I was afraid of some sort of miscommunication. But they were really happy and they like me. | ||
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| hoffa55 | Post Date: 2005-11-10 17:05:38 | ||
 member since 2005 Jul 02 Questions: 0 Comments: 2 |
Congrats! Yeah, I think this question is pretty popular with most of the guys that learn Japanese (the ones I know anyway) Anyway, I wish you guys the best! | ||
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| dtm | Post Date: 2005-11-12 05:24:38 | ||
member since 2005 Sep 18 Questions: 2 Comments: 7 |
Rex! I'm not sure about how I would feel either if I saw my girlfriend's brother kiss her on the mouth! Well, if I had gotten married I wouldn't be able to move to Japan next year, and I'd be studying Korean now instead of Japanese. It's really funny though, I actually met her in a junior college japanese 2 class. | ||
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